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How is it only Wednesday? Below we have some questions answered from our Sunday Scaries Q and A to get you through. Followed by a cocktail, of course.
Q. I feel like I have no time for a personal life with the amount of time I devote to my job, how do I balance both without giving up my dreams for a relationship?
Happiness isn’t always linear for everyone- what looks like ‘normal’ to one person won't exactly match up with someone else's idea of happiness! If you feel like you’re not devoting enough time to yourself, and your happiness, you have to start to actively prioritize your days into leaving room not only for a successful career, but a fulfilling personal life too. You never want to lead a life with regrets, so even if it’s an uphill climb at first, try to persevere and make the necessary changes that you notice are having a positive impact.
Q. I think I purposely close myself off to people so I don't get hurt, but I end up perpetually single. Do I need therapy?
We’ve all been guilty of hiding parts of ourselves, or our emotions, in order to protect ourselves and our sanity. It’s not the best coping mechanism, but as the saying goes, “the best defense is offense.”
By preemptively protecting yourself, you’re admitting that there is something that you need to be protected from. The assumption that you’ll get hurt is in the back of your mind before you even get a chance to explore anything. It’s a frightening truth that, at times, we will be hurt. By people we love and care about, but that fear should not stop you from experiencing all life, and love, has to offer. If you allow it to dictate your actions, they won't be genuine and you’ll have lost, before you even had a chance to begin. Does therapy always help in that regard? Yes, I think it absolutely can have positive benefits on your well being and your approach. If you find someone who you trust yourself to be honest and forthright with, then you can begin the journey of combatting a defeatist mentality. The best experiences in life are the ones we never predicted, so let yourself have them!
Q. How do I remind myself that it’s not my ex that I miss, but the stability of having a relationship?
Going through a breakup is often painful and hard as is, but the real weight of it comes when you remember that you used to have a partner and were part of a ‘we’ narrative. Once you logically separate the two, and realize that you can have that with someone else, with whom you are perhaps more compatible, you can start to compartmentalize in a way that you understand where and why the feelings are stemming from. Separate the person from the memories of togetherness. Remember the reasons why it never worked. Remind yourself, if you have to, that you will not be bound by habit but instead thrust forward into happiness because of it.
“One Drink” Wednesday: Apple Cider Mojito
This drink is the most delish and refreshing way to transition from summer into fall. We’re not ready to go full pumpkin spice mode just yet.
1/2 Cup lemon juice
1 Cup rum
2 1/2 Cup apple cider
Sprigs Mint as garnish
cinnamon sticks as garnish
slices apple as garnish
slices lemon as garnish
star anise as garnish
In a pitcher stir together the lemon, rum and apple cider.
Once you are ready to serve add the ice to the pitcher and stir.
Pour into glasses and finish with a splash of club soda. Garnish with mint and cinnamon sticks.