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Karen from accounting is on my LAST nerve.
Thanks, I hate it.
It’s called retail therapy, look it up 💅🏻
How is it only Wednesday? Below we have some questions answered from our Sunday Scaries Q and A to get you through. Followed by a cocktail, of course.
Q. What is the best way to ask for a promotion?
My advice, always, is to first believe you deserve the promotion, so when you walk in to your boss’s office (or conference call them), you’re well prepared to state your reasons for being deserving of one. Promotions are usually given not to the person who qualifies for it most, but to the person who believes they do- the most delusionally confident, if you will, and that’s because the rest of us spend so much time doubting whether we deserve it or will get it, that we miss out on the actual opportunity. So, strike that match and confidently pursue that promotion because if you don’t someone else will and you’ll always wonder “what if?”
Q. My bf is being distant all of the sudden. Is he cheating?
It’s such a natural transition for us to assume someone is instantly cheating if their behavior is even marginally different than what we’re used to. We’re instantly suspicious. Not to say that’s not the case sometimes, but we as human beings always veer towards the negative. The way to approach this would first be to ask whether something is the matter and communicate- especially if this is a relationship built on trust and honesty. Things can so easily be resolved with a little communication, and that’s usually our last resort. I say communicate how you feel first, and if that doesn’t work and he still seems off, then perhaps do some detective work….You know the kind of detective work I’m talking about.
Q. I suffer from anxiety in public, and my job requires a lot of public speaking. How can I combat that without medical intervention?
Thankfully, these days, the internet offers a lot of other solutions and tips to combat anxiety, whether it’s little exercises you start implementing daily or rituals you add to your morning and night routine. Sometimes, the best method is just to practice, and with error, you can see what works and what doesn’t. Practice in front of friends, or family, so you can start to get a feel for what tips and trips work for you. We highlight a few of them on our mental health initiative page, @MyTherapistHelps.
Q. How do I break up with someone nicely?
Break-ups are extremely complicated and sometimes, it’s almost easier to be dumped than do the dumping- especially if the person you’re breaking up with did little to deserve it other than your deciding to move on. The best way to do this is to be as gentle and patient as possible, and try to approach it the way you would a good friend. This way, you can try to spare the feelings of your partner whilst still respecting your own boundaries. There’s really not much more you can do than approaching it from a place of kindness, because no matter what, the act will still be painful. Knowing that you care and are trying to do the right thing in the right way, hopefully your partner will understand that it wasn’t their fault and that sometimes, situations are just not meant to work out.
“One Drink” Wednesday: Espresso Martini
Perf for “decanting” in a thermos during all your zoom meetings.
4 oz Casamigos blanco tequila
4 oz egg white, from about 2 large eggs
3 oz fresh lime juice
1 oz simple syrup
A pinch of sea salt (optional)
Pour all ingredients except the ice into a cocktail shaker and shake vigorously for 30 seconds. The more aggressive, the better.
Add the ice to fill the shaker 1/3 full and continue to shake for another 30 seconds.
Strain into 2 glasses and serve. Cheers!