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How is it only Wednesday? Below we have some questions answered from our Sunday Scaries Q and A to get you through. Followed by a cocktail, of course.
Q. Why does ghosting happen?
‘Ghosting’ is one of those things that truly varies from person to person- it can either stem from a general lack of caring for the other person, and then quickly detaching yourself from the situation. Or it can be more complex than that, and be more thought out. Sometimes, people are uncomfortable with confronting situations head on, so they resort to ghosting so as not to deal with the ramifications of what it could mean to actually have that hard conversation with someone. Either way, it’s not great, and it doesn't feel good, but we can only control our reaction to it, which should be to look onward and upward.
Q. How can I help my partner feel more secure about past ex’s?
It’s always unpleasant to think about your partner having shared the same intimacy as they do with you with someone else, but at some point, it’s inevitable. We’ve been so conditioned from a young age, with fairy tales and stories, that you meet the one, and spend the rest of your life together. More often than not, however, that’s not the case. You date, you get to know people, you take your time, and you decide with whom you’ll spend your life with, in a rational way. But getting rid of that thought in the back of your mind, the one that screams “what if she was better than me?” Or “what if he did something I’m not doing?”
Theodore Roosevelt once said “comparison is the thief of joy” and how right he was. Instead of spending our time worrying about ‘what once was’, we need to spend that time making ‘what could be’. Whether that means having discussions with your partner and making each other feel loved in the ways that you both need, or small actions throughout the relationship that convey the sincerity of your thoughts, being able to communicate this truth is the most important thing you can do. Remind your partner that there is always a yesterday, but a tomorrow isn’t guaranteed- living in the past won’t build a brighter, happier today.
Q. I’m 34 and feel a guy should shell all my boxes; otherwise, I feel it wont work out. Am I wrong?
You can never tell someone to develop feelings if both their heart and mind are not in it. If you feel like your partner is missing qualities that are important to you, that’s your decision and intuitively, you’ll know. Is it important to cling to those qualities in an obtrusive manner to the point where you don’t even give people a chance to reveal more parts of themselves? Honestly, no. By ticking off your metaphoric checklist anytime you meet someone eligible can be really draining and debilitating.
We as humans don’t often reveal everything, instantly, upon meeting, so those early moments in a relationship when you get to know someone and slowly figure out their traits are important. That’s why writing someone off too soon if they don’t meet one or two of your boxes can be wrong. Again, you should never settle and concede with ‘good enough’. You should be able to find a compromise and still maintain that happiness and joy of finding your person, who shares your likes and dislikes, your dreams and aspirations; even your pet peeves. But you have to give yourself a chance to find that person and be less obstinate; let love in.
“One Drink” Wednesday: Candy Corn Martini
Just in time for trick or treating, because we obvi need our dose of Candy too!
1 Teaspoon Pumpkin Pie Spice
3 Tablespoons Ginger Snap Cookies
1-2 Tablespoon Honey
2/3 Cup Vodka
3/4 Cup Coffee Liqueur ie. Kahlua
2/3 Cup Heavy Cream or Half and Half
1 Stick Cinnamon Stick for garnish
Fill martini shaker ¼ the way up with crushed or cubed ice.
Pour in the vodka and pineapple juice.
Ensure the lid is on tight and then shake 15 seconds.
Remove top strainer lid and pour into martini glasses until about ¾ of the way filled.
Measure 1 TB of grenadine each, and pour into a martini glass. It will sink to the bottom slowly.
Top each martini with whipped cream