The Antidote - Your Weekly Remedy
Memes About Town (Memes of the Week)
Today’s glowy makeup look is brought to you by my upper lip sweat.
Yet, my bank account is looking real “we got coffee at home”-ish.
Never not thinking about my next snack.
How is it only Wednesday? Below we have some questions answered from our Sunday Scaries Q and A to get you through. Followed by a cocktail, of course.
Q. How to deal with rejection in a healthy way?
It’s all about perspective when it comes to rejection. Yes, give yourself time to process and understand your emotions, but make sure you don’t ruminate and put yourself down. Look at this rejection as an opportunity to redirect your path to a route that better suits you. For example, if you got rejected from a job, see this as a chance to explore a different field or subset of your field that better suits your skill set. If you got rejected from a romantic partner, view it with a grateful perspective that you didn’t waste your time and energy on someone that doesn’t fully appreciate you.
Q. Is it a red flag if a guy you are talking to doesn’t post you on social media?
Girl, run. If you’ve been seeing each other for awhile and have made it official and he refuses to post you on social media… I hate to say it but he’s either cheating or not fully committed to the relationship. The only excuse for this is if he doesn’t use social media, and by that I mean he doesn’t even have an account. Run. Just run.
Q. Just started therapy for the first time but I’m afraid of scaring my therapist - tips?
First of all, kudos to you for taking the first step and acknowledging you need therapy. We understand it can be very frightening to reach out for help in a time of need. Making sure you find a therapist that fits well with you and that you can trust is critical to opening up to them, so make sure you do some shopping around. Don’t be afraid to try a different therapist if you aren’t vibing with your initial pick. I think I went through 5 different therapists before I found one that really “got” me, whatever that means. Another thing that helped me open up is realizing that I will not grow as a person and won’t get much out of therapy if I try to hide things from my therapist. Being vulnerable is a sign of growth and strength in therapy and it’s literally their job to listen and empathize with you so don’t worry about telling them that you texted your ex 42 times the night before. They won’t judge you like your bestie might.
Q. Dudes in an open relationship keep flirting with me and I’m catching feels- help!
Looks like you got yourself involved in a little entanglement, as Jada might say. I think the simple answer in this very complicated relationship dynamic is to just not get involved in open relationships if you know your feelings are going to interfere. Clearly you want more than just a casual relationship so you have to be honest with yourself and only seek out a monogamous partner. And whatever you do, don’t accept drinks from that couple from across the bar who “really likes your vibe”.
“One Drink” Wednesday: Pink Basil Smash
Because who doesn’t love an aesthetic pink drink.
2oz pink gin
2oz lime juice
Fresh basil leaves
In your cocktail glass muddle together raspberries and basil leaves
Add 2oz of lime juice
Add 2oz of pink gin
Top off with soda water
Garnish with raspberries and basil leaves