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How is it only Wednesday? Below we have some questions answered from our Sunday Scaries Q and A to get you through. Followed by a cocktail, of course.
Q. How do I let go of someone who wants me, but not a relationship?
The most important part is to keep reminding yourself, every time you feel weak or lonely, or yearning, that while this person may be someone you were infatuated with, the future just isn’t there. And that it is through no fault of your own. Some people just aren’t ready to be able to give themselves in a relationship, and that’s actually mature to acknowledge. It would be worse if this person led you on by false notions and promises, only to leave you shortly after because this was not what they wanted.
It’s not easy reconciling the emotions and the reality, but though the road is often marred with difficulty, it’ll be worth it when you meet the person who is ready for you and to be what you need. We all find someone who is right for us, but these roadblocks come up every now and they teach us lessons about ourselves, and what we truly need.
Q. Realistic dating advice in your 30’s? How and where?
I’ve talked about this so many times in our newsletters, but age is truly not an issue these days, unless you’re in a hurry to procreate! Yes, a biological clock is a real thing, and there are ways to prolong that process with modern science, but just because you are in your 30’s, your life doesn’t automatically become mundane and monotonous. Dating in your 30’s is incredibly fun- you now know what you don’t want, you’re confident and know your worth, and you’re independent! Our 20’s are fraught with insecurity and fear, so our 30’s are for truly exploring our truest selves.
Go to local bars and start making friends with the bartenders, make plans with friends at a new place every week to explore and get yourself into new environments; do something outside of your comfort zone as often as you can! These experiences always lead to meeting new people, and making new memories. Take the focus out of the ‘who’ and the ‘when, and just start focusing on living and leading the best life you can for the best version of you, and that will open your life to the new possibilities of love. Not to mention all that life has to offer.
Q. I understand that we hold trauma in our bodies, but how do I get rid of it? I don't want it turning into something more serious!
We’ve read in so many studies and experiments that stress in our bodies leads to a plethora of diseases and illnesses. That sentence, even, is causing stress in my body!! Don’t you think knowing that should dissuade us from ever clinging on to any sort of stress or stress-inducing situation? Well, unfortunately, that’s not how life works. There are, however, plenty of ways to curb stress and start dealing with it in a healthy, manageable way. Meditation has been known as the number one de-stressor in our modern age. And that’s not just one sort of meditation, where you sit and chant “ohm” until the time’s up and you go about your day. It could mean anything that you find security and calm in! For you, meditation could be closing your eyes and listening to a favorite song, or sound, on repeat, stilling your mind and thoughts, to clear any fog or uncertainty plaguing you. It’s a lot easier said than done, stilling your mind, and drowning out the noise, but with practice and patience, you will get there! Anything that gives you a sense of calm can be your meditative outlet.
Another tool for managing stress is distracting yourself with something that you enjoy, like tuning out to watch a silly tv show, or going for a walk. That is both healthy for the body and the mind. There is no ‘one size fits all’ rule to managing stress, but only that you must find a way that works for you and implement it into your daily routine, so that when the time comes, and you really need to soothe yourself, you are prepared and nothing will veer you off course.
“One Drink” Wednesday: Fall Spiced Whiskey Sour
Take a sip of this every time your annoying aunt asks why you’re still single this Thanksgiving.
2 ounces whiskey
3 ounces apple cider
1 Juice of 1 lemon
pinch pumpkin pie spice
lots of ice
Combine all ingredients in a cocktail shaker and add plenty of ice. Shake well until mixed and ice cold.
Strain and pour into your cocktail glass filled with fresh ice. Garnish with an apple slicem, sprig of rosemary or anything festive and fallish. Cheers!