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How is it only Wednesday? Below we have some questions answered from our Sunday Scaries Q and A to get you through. Followed by a cocktail, of course.
Q. How can I handle the pressure and stress that I face constantly from my parents?
Most psychological traumas and stresses are usually developed early on in the home, so parents play a bi role in our psychological development and mental well-being. If your parents are constantly proving to be a stressort, and you can’t yet move out and are still dependent on them, find ways to extricate yourself from situations in which they may have direct access to your mental health and personal space. Whether that means having a discussion about boundaries and how you feel, or if it’s something as innocuous as just leaving when you grow uncomfortable and take the space you need. You do not owe anyone your time, your well-being, or your sanity- if you see the toxic habits and patterns from your loved ones, please don’t feel as though that in itself makes it okay. It’s usually those closest to us who take advantage of our mental health.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we own an apartment together, so how do I find the courage to leave?
So often people will stay in a relationship far past its due date only because they’ve already “invested so much time in it.” I’m here to tell you that that myth is, in fact, just that. Time and money does not mean you have to subject yourself to consistent unhappiness. It is entirely okay to admit that something that once worked has stopped, and it’s alright to move on. 4 years is a long time, and you've shared your space together, you’ve built memories together, so it won't be easy. But, if you value your happiness and you see it being diminished here, you must make the steps, however small they are, to move onwards and upwards.
Something as small as enquiring about new places you can move out to, or even spending less time together so you can acquaint yourself with the ‘you’ you were before having met your partner. That doesn’t make you a bad person, it just makes you brave enough to admit the truth. The second thing is to have that conversation with your partner. Let them know how you feel, and perhaps they too feel that way and it can be a challenge you both face together.
Q. I am constantly exposed to a sexist coworker and I can’t continue to hear him say stupid things! What should I do?
Sexism in the workplace is a tale as old as time, and in this day and age, doesn’t need to be tolerated. It’s hard to stand up to someone when no one else objects to it, making you the sore thumb, so the best way to start to deal with it is to distance yourself and convey your disapproval in small ways- such as avoiding this person, actively disengaging when you hear the sexist comments, and voicing your opinion to fellow coworkers whom you trust to explain how and why this behavior should not be condoned. There are ‘jokes’ and then there is actual gross behavior in the work space that shouldn’t be acceptable.
We are slowly getting to a place where people actually feel safe enough to open up and fight that language, but it’s taking time and it’s taking more and more brave individuals to be the ones to stand up and fight against this idiocy. It’s unfair, but the first thing you can do is make sure you’re not putting up with it. When you’ve taken that first step, others are sure to follow.
“One Drink” Wednesday: Raspberry Spritz
The perf end of summer cocktail to make you completely forget that it’s the end of summer.
The aperol spritz cooler older sister is here to save you on a hot summer day.
For the Raspberry-Mint Syrup:
1 cup raspberries
1 cup sugar
1 cup water
10 mint leaves
For the Cocktail:
3 ounces dry sparkling wine
1 ounce club soda
2 ounces Cocchi Americano
3/4 ounce Raspberry-Mint Syrup
Raspberries and mint, for garnish
For the raspberry mint syrup:
In a medium saucepan, combine raspberries, sugar, and water over medium-high heat.
Mash raspberries with a wooden spoon to break up.
Bring to a boil and then remove from heat.
Add mint leaves and stir to combine.
Cover and let stand for 30 minutes.
Using a fine-mesh strainer, strain into an airtight container.
Syrup keeps up to 1 month in the refrigerator.
For the Cocktail:
Fill a rocks glass or goblet with ice.
Add sparkling wine, club soda, Cocchi Americano, and Raspberry-Mint Syrup.
Gently stir to combine.
Garnish with raspberries and a sprig of mint.