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The poor, unfortunate souls.
It’s honestly a life or death situation.
*lights pumpkin spiced candles*
How is it only Wednesday? Below we have some questions answered from our Sunday Scaries Q and A to get you through. Followed by a cocktail, of course.
Q. I really want to ask my significant other to commit, but i’m nervous about cheating becoming an issue? Not that he’s ever cheated, but I’m anxious regardless?
A big part of our Q and A this week focused on cheating, boundaries, and how differently couples approach monogamy. As someone who is a firm believer in monogamy, and ‘old fashioned courting’, I too find myself nervous treading these open waters. People are far more fluid these days, so I think the most important thing is communication and trust. As long as you communicate what you’re comfortable with, and truly trust your partner, there’s not much else you can do. You’ll drive yourself crazy with the “what if’s?” and that will only be detrimental to your mental health. So, if you really love someone, a huge part of that has to be trust and open communication, because anything else isn’t worth the anxiety-inducing, stress-ridden nights that a lack of trust brings with it.
Q. My best friend and ex-boyfriend are asking me if it’s okay for them to date and I'm not sure whether I’m comfortable with it? It’s not that I want him back, but I think it might be weird between us. I don’t know whether to be mad at my best friend or give her a chance at something that didn’t work for me?
This one is tricky, considering if she really is your best friend, you’ll have to spend an awful lot of time with your ex if they start dating. Those are boundaries you have to set, seeing how far you can go until you feel uncomfortable. If you and your ex had an amicable breakup and both parties were for the dissolution of the relationship, then maybe you can find it in your heart to allow them to find their chance at happiness. But, the other side is seeing them together might drudge up old memories and hurt you down the line, so you have to be sure before giving your answer. It’s hard when our friends put us in these positions, as it makes us question both our friendships and our relationships, but life isn’t black and white, and simplicity, whilst dreamy, isn’t always attainable. Feel out internally what your comfort zone is, and have a talk with your best friend- that’s what they’re there for!
Q. I find myself lethargic and cold towards the idea of opening up to someone and letting them in, but that also makes me fear ending up alone- how do i get over my trust issues, and let someone in?
Our generation, with all the excess and access, has been burdened with so many ideas and options that that in turn causes us to be even more nervous and afraid of making the wrong decisions. Seeing, especially on social media, the rise and fall of relationships, played out so publicly, can be really traumatizing without us even realizing it. It’s an incredibly thin line to walk on, so know you’re not alone in your fear, and that you will get to a place of trust and love- it just takes some time. Start with something small, whether it’s opening yourself up to coffee dates, or walks in the park- something that doesn’t instantly put you on the offense. We are inherently creatures of habit, so you will constantly gravitate towards what is comfortable, just to steer clear from the discomfort that something you’re unprepared for will provide; but oftentimes, it’s stepping out of that zone and into the unknown that can be the best cure! Again, small steps are completely alright, even if you're just testing the waters. Start with friendship, make a weekly habit, and add to it as you grow more easy and relaxed. Eventually, as you make it a habit, your thoughts and emotions will adapt as well.
“One Drink” Wednesday: BlackBerry Peach Elderflower Cocktail
The perf end of summer cocktail to make you completely forget that it’s the end of summer.
8 Thin Slices Peach plus more for garnish (about 1/3 of a peach)
8 Blackberries plus more for garnish
8 Mint Leaves plus more for garnish
4 ounces Vodka *
2 ounces Elderflower Liqueur
½ Lemon – juiced
Agave Nectar to taste (optional)
Sprite to taste (optional)
In a cocktail shaker (or glass), muddle the blackberries, peach slices and mint leaves until the fruit releases its juices.
Add in the vodka, liqueur, lemon juice, agave (if using) and ice. Shake vigorously until the shaker is very cold to the touch.
Fill two rocks glass with ice.
Strain cocktail into glasses and top with sprite if using. Garnish as desired. Enjoy!